Have-Do-Be or Be-Do-Have
Which is it?
“If I had more money, I would save more money and do more fun things, and then I’d be happier.”
Or, is it?
“If I am happy, my work will be more productive and I’ll save more money, then I’ll have the money to do what I love to do.”
Which is it?
“If I only had more friends, I could do more fun things, and I’d be happier.”
Or, is it?
“If I am happy, I’ll get out and do more things, and I will create more friendships.”
Have-Do-Be thinking is wishful thinking. Be-Do-Have thinking is to “own your happiness.” The doing is always important, but your state of being is more likely to motivate you to do it than is your wishing.


Thank you, Natalie, for your regular participation in the conversation.
Great way to think about it… I like it!